Well the baby is coming in 8 days and its interesting how husband and I are reacting to the stress.
From my perspective:
I am in spending lockdown and scouring the internet obsessively checking my retirement accounts/bank accounts/projected SS benefits (thank you CCFree for putting that on my radar)/potential healthcare options for Obamacare (where is the official sign up website? I cant find it). I am reading blogs, forums, and stories about everything money related from bankruptcy to extreme high net worth.
It's like I am so avoiding the arrival of baby- reading about babies makes me feel physically ill. It is too real at this point.
I'm also in cleaning/ decluttering mode. Which is hard to do with all these contractors in our house every day (more on that later). I am trying to have the house sparkling all day so I can relax my mind and not run through a mental checklist constantly of what needs to be done. I feel like we have accumulated so much for the baby- I want to get rid of stuff. I mean jeeze- we have way to many chairs in this house now! And the dining room now houses a pack n play, stroller, and baby swing. It's very visually cluttered over here.
Husbands erratic behavior:
Husband is burying himself in projects. He has chosen THIS WEEK to get A/C installed in our attic to start to "finish out the attic".
We have had contractors traipsing through the house for the last 3 days. They are back to finish up tomorrow. I am regretting giving him cart blanch on that project because at the time of planning I was too distracted with, oh I don't know, the BABY COMING IN 2 WEEKS!
I told him to do whatever- this project wasn't a priority to me. Well, I swear he told me the A/C guys would have a few wires trailing down the side of our house to attach the new exterior unit to the unit in the attic.
The reality is TWO WHITE METAL GUTTER PIPES housing all the wires. It is so MANLY.
So typical to take a plain, unnoticeable BLUE side of the house and visually clutter it up with your electrical wires and WHITE pipes running from the 3rd story down to the ground to make sure EVERYONE can see that there is technology and gadgetry going on. Every time I think about it I get irritated. But its done. And husband and workmen are happy with the result.
I try to repeat to myself that a finished attic increases our property value more than the new curb appeal decreases it.
Then on Monday we have a handyman coming to cut open some drywall to expand the attic space, he'll install a firewall to protect us from our attached neighbors, and add plywood decking to the expanded area.
Because a partially finished attic is exactly what we need right now.
Husband is also scrolling the internet looking for rental properties. I KNOW WE CANT AFFORD ANY RIGHT NOW which is why I just don't worry about that. Given that there is 0 chance of a purchase, I just humor him. His choice to waste his time looking for something that doesn't exist.
He also looks at adoption websites for a dog. A DOG! We lost Copi about 2 months ago- so we have the room for another. But Please. No. We still have a 2 year old dog that is too strong on the leash for me to walk safely in my pregnant state. Why don't you focus on better leash training our existing dog Mr. TashaC?
hmmmpff...so that's whats going on in my household.
And in defense of the husband, he is pretty sweet to me on a daily basis making me meals and fetching things I need when I am too tired/comfortable to get off the couch.
I did throw two pieces of bread at his head a few nights ago and he took the beating like a champ.
8 days to go on the pregnancy front
October 20th, 2013 at 08:47 am
October 20th, 2013 at 02:16 pm 1382278589
Please tell your husband not to waste his time look at adoptable dogs. I would be shocked and disappointed with any adoption group that would approve you guys right now. Please, you guys really need to wait until after you get settled in to your new post-baby-arrival routine before you even think about it. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is said with the voice of lots of experience in these things and 100% concern, not to be mean. It wouldn't be fair to you, your husband, the baby, or the dog.
October 20th, 2013 at 02:37 pm 1382279861
October 20th, 2013 at 04:52 pm 1382287954
And please don't let your husband introduce a new dog now. Very dangerous to bring a new dog and a new baby into the same environment during the same time period.
We always kept our stroller in the trunk of the car so it didn't take up space in the house, even though we mostly used it just to go on walks. I got very good at opening the stroller one-handed while holding the baby in the other arm.
October 20th, 2013 at 08:33 pm 1382301180
Hope your "nesting" goes well...and you have a healthy baby, TashaC!
October 21st, 2013 at 12:37 am 1382315854
October 21st, 2013 at 02:49 am 1382323767