Ok baby Charlotte is over 3 weeks old and my days have just gotten more consumed by her as she gets older. As she is growing, she is sleeping less, eating more and crying A LOT more. Constantly wants to be held. Makes it so hard to get anything else done.
We are experimenting with various sleep methods to get through the night. Given that she sleeps periodically and pretty contentedly in the day (she just falls asleep every few hrs wherever she is)- I have NO IDEA why her 8 pm feeding (last feeding before I go to bed) turns into a cry fest where she feeds herself to sleep but wakes within minutes of being put in her bed and cries until she is picked back up. This cycle continues for up to 2 HOURS with me drifting off for 10 mins and then she wakes- realizes she is in her bed and screams bloody murder.
After that first nightmare shift when we FINALLY get her to sleep- the next 2 feedings are usually quiet with her feeding and falling back asleep within an hour.
Around 6 am she is UP. Wide awake, in a good mood. I wish she would do one more sleep shift and be wide awake, in a good mood around 8 am, but oh well.
Does anyone know WHY my baby refuses to be put to bed after her 8pm feeding? I just keep picking her back up, feeding her more, wait for her to fall asleep and put her down- just to have her stir and start wailing.
Ugh - I would be fine with the current sleep arrangement if she would give me those two hrs between 8 -10pm to sleep and not scream.
Baby sleep schedule is making my evenings miserable
November 20th, 2013 at 01:09 pm
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I don't think she has reflux because she's fine for the other 10 feedings a day she does.
If I wait long enough- this will pass.
November 20th, 2013 at 01:40 pm 1384954849
Oh boy, been there and done that many times over. Are you particularly stressed and different at that bedtime feeding (anxious)? Maybe Charlotte is sensing that. I'd try making it as effortless and relaxing for you as possible. Dim lights, quiet music, candles? Might help to reduce some of the chaos?
Take care. We've all been there! I second ccf's suggestion of putting a call into the pediatrician. Just talking to a nurse always put things in perspective and they can offer something you might not have thought of.
November 20th, 2013 at 01:41 pm 1384954877
Hang in there!!
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November 20th, 2013 at 10:01 pm 1384984879
The baby may be waking up with gas. How well are you burping her after the 8 p.m. feeding? A lot of first time parents don't realize just how important getting a loud burp from the baby can be. They'll get some soft quiet ones and think that is good, but it isn't enough.
Is the baby gaining weight well? If not there might be an issue with the milk supply and she may not be getting enough to eat which would make her cry. There are things that can be done to increase milk supply, like taking Fenugreek and making sure you are taking in an appropriate amount of calories.
November 20th, 2013 at 10:25 pm 1384986304
November 20th, 2013 at 11:46 pm 1384991192
It helps that you guys all went through it too. She's close to a month old- only a few more weeks and maybe things will improve.
Its almost 7pm now- we'll see how tonight's 8pm feeding goes!
November 21st, 2013 at 01:48 am 1384998538
Make sure you get as much sleep as possible. Let the house go if you need to. I learned that the lack of sleep made me much more irritable, and that probably didn't help.
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November 21st, 2013 at 05:59 am 1385013544
At her age I would do WHATEVER you need to to keep her calm, happy and feeling safe. She might want to nurse for comfort even though she just finished eating. Some babies just need touching and holding a lot more than others.
The evenings were alway the hardest for me because I just wanted to relax. It does get better and easier. The first two months are really tough - Hang in there.
Could DH hold/rock/soothe her, say, from 8pm to 10:30pm so you could go take a nap? Then you could nurse again at around 11pm and then probably around 3am?